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Here are a few sexual positions women enjoy
Women love sex. In fact, some women think about it just as often, if not more, then their male counterparts. They fantasize constantly and at great length (with you being the object of their desire, of course). These hot little fantasies can cover a broad spectrum of kink, but almost always involve one of the five most common sex positions women enjoy. This is due to a number of reasons, the most significant being that they create a perfect balance between level of difficulty and maximum pleasure. In other words, these sex positions women enjoy result in loads of pleasure for the minimal level of effort required to pull them off. That’s not to say that women don’t love your faves as well; they’re definitely into sexual acrobatics every now and then — but when we’re getting down and dirty, certain sex positions tend to get women more wet than others.

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Most women love being on top for one simple reason: It makes them feel like they’re in charge, and power is always a heady aphrodisiac. Being on top is not limited to one style, however. If you’re old-school, lie on your back and have her straddle your waist before lowering herself onto you; don’t forget to lend her some support by holding her hips while she rides you. If your woman doesn’t enjoy this style, it’s likely for one of two reasons: She may feel overexposed during the act, or her legs might be a bit too short to pull it off comfortably. The easy fix for this dilemma? Move to the sofa. Sit yourself down, lean back and pull her astride you. This is definitely one of the sex positions women enjoy because it allows her to brace herself against the back of the couch, giving her excellent leverage to ride you to orgasm. She can even brace herself with one hand, leaving the other free to play with her clit.

Sex position savvy: It may be tempting to just sit back and enjoy the scenery, but if you’d like to really rock her world, tease her breasts and nipples with your tongue and trace the curve of her waist with your fingers; these moves will magnify her pleasure.

The comfort zone

More commonly known as the missionary position, the comfort zone is not to be overlooked. Nor should any man ignore its tremendous potential for scorching hot sex. Yes, it can also make for predictable, boring sex a Puritan would admire, but only if you’re lacking passion and creativity. The comfort zone is one of the top sex positions women enjoy, and for good reason: the permutations for pleasure are virtually endless, and none of them involve discomfort or the skills of a gymnast. Take charge: Lay her down on the bed, spread her legs apart by sliding your knee between her thighs, place her wrists above her head and show her what you’re made of. Women love displays of dominance in the bedroom, and this one can be either subtle or overt, making it suitable for nearly every woman out there.

Sex position savvy: Take it to the next level by talking dirty to her. Bring your lips close to her ear and whisper what you’re going to do to her; let her know she’ll be screaming your name before it’s over.

You’ll definitely want to try these sexual positions women love…

Stand at erection

This sexual position women enjoy is pretty self-evident in the title: Your woman is going to sit on a surface that stands level with your waist, and then you’re going to penetrate her as deeply as you possibly can. The further her legs are spread apart the better, and you can maximize this by drawing her legs around your waist. This will place her vagina directly against your groin, and will make deep thrusting incredibly easy for you, thereby increasing her odds of having a G-spot orgasm. Where can you put this sexual position women enjoy to good use? Try the kitchen counter, the bathroom counter, the washing machine, the piano, the hood of your car — get as naughty as you like.

Sex position savvy: Some men come relatively quickly in this position, thanks to it’s deep-thrusting potential. Don’t be afraid to slow down and take a break to get yourself back under control. Use that time to stimulate her clitoris and bring her closer to the edge. When you start thrusting again, she’ll be just as ready as you are.

Spooning it

The spoon position makes for fabulous sex, and it’s really no wonder that it’s on this list of sexual positions women enjoy. A woman loves the feel of a man’s chest against her back, she loves the feel of your arms wrapped around her and she loves the feel of being penetrated from behind. She especially enjoys it in the spoon position, because it’s incredibly comfortable and still allows you to play with her breasts and clitoris, which, frankly, most women can never get enough of.

Slide behind your woman, pull her bottom backward against your groin, and slip her top leg over your hip, drawing it slightly backward as you do so. Having her thighs spread apart like this will make her feel deliciously naughty and she’ll probably arch her body to give you even further access. This is a very comfortable sexual position women enjoy, and you can expect a great deal of moaning to ensue.

Sex position savvy: Take advantage of this position by reaching around and <>stimulating her clitoris, and don’t forget to talk dirty to her as you do; this is one of the best positions for pillow talk.

Stoop doggy dog

You may be surprised to see doggy style making the list, but it really is one of the sexual positions women enjoy. That said, the doggy style you see in the average porn flick isn’t really what we’re talking about here — we’re after something a bit more intimate and far more pleasurable. Yes, women do like being bent forward on all fours and taken from behind, but they like it even more when you bend forward as well, sliding your fingers between her thighs and toying with her clit. And women simply love it when you switch things up by pulling them into a kneeling position while you continue to thrust deeply. Women definitely enjoy doggy style, as long as they aren’t made to feel like objects.

Sex position savvy: While bending forward, gently nip your woman’s shoulders with your teeth; this area is very sensitive and most women enjoy being bitten there, as it greatly intensifies the sexual pleasure.

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As mentioned previously, women love sex just as much as you do, and they’re particularly fond of it when it involves any of these woman-pleasing sexual positions. While some women may not love each position on this list, rest assured that most do, and they’re happy to experiment for the sake of keeping things fresh and exciting. Women love those kinky positions, too, but sometimes a girl just wants a man to penetrate her in a style she knows she’ll be able to orgasm from. Try one of these sexual positions women enjoy and she probably will.

The term “G-Spot” was first introduced to the public at large in the book, “The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality” in the 1980s. It referred to an article from 1950 in the International Journal of Sexology in which gynecologist, Dr. Ernest Grafenberg wrote about erotic sensitivity along the anterior vaginal wall.

While many people have read or heard about Grafenberg, few have read his actual words. In reality, Grafenberg only uses the word “spot” twice and he uses it to make the opposite point to the way it has been popularly used. He states that “there is no spot in the female body, from which sexual desire could not be aroused. Innumerable erotogenic spots are distributed all over the body, from where sexual satisfaction can be elicited; these are so many that we can almost say that there is no part of the female body which does not give sexual response, the partner has only to find the erotogenic zones.”

The Grafenberg spot (G-Spot) is said to be a sensitive area just behind the front wall of the vagina, between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. Beverly Whipple, a certified sex educator and counselor, and John D. Perry, an ordained minister, psychologist, and sexologist, named the G-Spot after gynecologist Ernest Grafenberg (1881-1957).

Dr. Grafenberg was the first modern physician to describe the area and argue for its importance in female sexual pleasure. His claim is that when this spot is stimulated during sex through vaginal penetration of some kind (fingers during masturbation, penis or other object partly thrusting into the vagina), some women have an orgasm. This orgasm may include a gush of fluid from the urethra — sometimes called the “female ejaculation” — however, many experts do not agree on this. It is not considered urine. Is this real? Many gynecologists and physiologist still argue.

There has been a large amount of controversy among sex researchers regarding this theory. For women who have felt this gush of urethral fluid, or for those who have found a new pleasure spot, having a name for it confirms their experience.

But remember, not all women are sensitive in this area, so be careful not to set up unrealistic expectations for yourself. Try it out; if it works, great, if it doesn’t seem sensitive, try to find the spot(s) that are right for you!

“I love my fiancé, Tim, with all my heart, but he wasn’t setting any records for long-lasting lovemaking,” says Tina Noble^*, a 24-year-old television producer in Los Angeles. “Sometimes he’d come after just a few thrusts.” The couple tried out many make-it-last maneuvers - double-bagging with two condoms to desensitize his penis, pulling out to take boink breaks - but nothing held off his climaxes.

Noble had resigned herself to a lifetime of blink-and-it’s-over intercourse when a friend suggested they try a side-by-side sex shimmy that draws out below-the-belt excitement. And whoa baby, did it work! “Doing it in this position delayed his orgasm,” she says. “It was by far the most satisfying sexual experience we had ever shared. Now we do it that way all the time!”

Even if you aren’t in such a pesky passion predicament, you too can enhance your ecstasy by taking a new look at nooky. Here, Cosmo comes to the rut-busting, body-rocking rescue with six positions that fulfill particular sexual missions.

And as if that weren’t enough to make you want to rip off your clothes, wait till you try the Butterfly - a brand-new bonus position guaranteed to give lovemaking new meaning. So what are you waiting for? Grab your man as fast as you can and put these pleasure positions to the test.

YOU ON TOP: Control Your O

“Sometimes, I just want to be the chick in charge,” says Micki Taylor, a 28-year-old musician in Los Angeles. The perfect position when you’re feeling extra energetic is woman-on-top. And no sane man is going to gripe about being put in his place. “My husband loves to lie back and watch me make love my way,” Taylor adds.

When you take the role of Big-O CEO, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to have an orgasm via your clitoris or G-spot - both are possible in this position. For the can’t-miss clitoral orgasm, lean your torso forward, arch your back, and keep your crotch close to the base of his penis. Try using a rocking motion to maneuver his manhood instead of ride-’em-cowboy body bucking. You should feel the firmness of his pubic bone pressing right against your big-O button. And don’t be afraid to pull him upright into your arms for a special heart-to-heart moment.

You can also detonate a G-spot sexplosion by leaning back and resting your weight on your hands while riding up and down on his penis. “It may take a little practice, but this on-top technique is a good way to trigger an internal full-body G-spot orgasm,” says Lou Paget, author of How to Be a Great Lover (Broadway Books, 1999).

Bonus turn-on tip: Another impress-him maneuver is to grip his penis and do a pelvic bump’n’ grind. “I swivel my hips with his penis deep inside me,” says Samantha Bower, 26, a choreographer in Boston. “Once I establish a rhythm, I start squeezing my pelvic-floor muscles strategically - guys go nuts when I do that.” So crazy she says, that they’ll do anything to drive her equally wild with lust. To find your love muscles, stop the flow of urine and notice which muscles flex. Do several sets of 10 hold-and-release contractions of these muscles throughout the day and, in a few weeks, you, too, will be able to give him a lap dance like none other.

YOU SITTING, HIM STANDING: Johnny Come Quickly



Let’s face it, you’re not always in the mood for languid, last-forever lovin’. Sometimes, you’re so horny that you just want to get to the orgasm already. “We’ll be out to dinner and get so turned on that we’re dying to go home and do it,” says Alison MacKinley, 25, a grad student in Champagne, Illinois. “We barely make it through our front door before we’re going at it on the narrow hallway table.”

Doing it on a countertop - you’re spread-eagled on a table while your man faces you to thrust from the front - creates megaheat in a minimal amount of time. He’s sure to come quickly because he plunges deep, says Anne Hooper, author of The Great Sex Guide (DK Publishing, 1999). “Plus, men get off on the novelty of doing it somewhere new - to them, out of the bedroom equals no-holds-barred sex,” she adds.

YOU UNDER HIM: Chicken Soup of the Sack

Most couples’ main sex selection is the man-on-top missionary position. Often this oldie-but-goodie gets a “been there, done that” bum rap. Yet, there’s a reason why Tara Rowalski, 25, a teacher in New York City, craves it often. “I just need to feel close to my boyfriend,” she says. “I get a special connected feeling when our bodies are pressed together; it’s a safe and loving pleasure position.” Think of it as the comfort food of the bedroom.

And there’s a reason it feels so effortless. “Our bodies just fit well that way,” says Hooper. Other physical rewards to this coupling classic: nonstop kissing, touching, and eye-gazing. “It’s like a whole body massage - inside and out,” explains Hooper. “I love to feel every inch of my girlfriend’s body,” says Thomas Golan, a 23-year-old sound technician in Chicago. “I can feel everything from her neck to her breasts to her toes - it’s extremely erotic.”

And don’t mistake: Just because the missionary is ordinary doesn’t mean that it can’t be extraordinary. Put some swivel in your hips as he plunges in and out. “That way you can be an active participant, taking sexual control of your vaginal sensations while you’re on the bottom instead of just receiving what he gives,” she says.

The downside of the missionary: Some women have trouble climaxing because the clitoris just doesn’t get hit in the tried-and-true fit. Which brings us to…

CAT POSITION: The Soft Rock

Okay, so missionary doesn’t always make you quake. But a non-acrobatic modified version can give you the romantic connection while delivering an amazing orgasm (really). “I read about a variation on the missionary position and had to try it,” explains Elena Davids, a 23-year-old undergraduate in Chapel Hill, North Carolina. “It’s a slow burn, but by letting our pleasure build gradually, we have orgasms that are more intense and intimate than ever.”

The magic making-it method is called the coital alignment technique. “It’s simple,” says Edward Eichel, author of The Perfect Fit (Signet, 1993). “The man slides two to four inches forward from the typical missionary position,” he explains. “Rather than resting on his elbows, his arms should cup your shoulders so his body falls flat against yours,” Eichel says. “Both of your spines should be straight.” And the base of his penis should naturally rub your clitoris.

The next step to coital climax involves some genital soft rock. “Your legs should be straight out and touching his while you push your pelvis upward about two inches,” Eichel explains. “He should push down gently to give a slight counter-resistance. There is no in-and-out - it’s an up-and-down rocking movement.” But since both sets of genitals are sharing such tight quarters, it’s extremely pleasurable for both of you. To bring him in deeper, spread your inner thighs even wider and wrap your ankles gently around his calves.

DOGGY STYLE: G-Spot Jiggy

“Once you have an earth-shattering, total-body G-spot orgasm, you’ll crave more,” says Dallas Fenway, 26, an office manager in Hartford, Connecticut. “I can find my hot button by myself when masturbating, but reaching it through intercourse is the sexual crème de la crème.”

Okay. You’ve probably heard of the G-spot but might not know what it is, where it is, or how to get at it. “Your G-spot is a quarter-size supersensitive area behind the front wall of your vagina, about one-half to two-thirds of the way in,” says Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of Super Sexual Orgasm (HarperCollins, 1997). And a little firm, well-placed stroking of this pleasure place can open up a whole new orgasmic world.

But not just any position will do the G-spot job: For his penis to hit your hidden hot spot, your vagina has to be precisely angled. And doggy-style penetration fits the hit-the-spot bill perfectly, as Fenway can attest. “I can only have those great, all-body G-spot orgasms from the doggy position…so I like to do it a lot,” she says.

Nor is this a ho-hum pose for your man. “My lover loves going so deep inside me and the way his testicles hit my buttocks,” says Fenway. Plus, there’s something very primal about banging from behind that brings out the animal in even the most mild-mannered guy.

If you haven’t discovered your G-spot (keep looking!) or if you’re a big fan of clitoral tingles, coax his fingers to do some walking. “Your lover can easily rub your clitoris while he’s thrusting,” Keesling encourages. He can also caress the nape of your neck, your breasts, or wherever else you like.”

Brian Hackney, a 27-year-old investment banker in Toronto, has his own variation. “I had always loved doing it doggy-style, but it didn’t do much for my girlfriend - so I bought a vibrating sex toy,” he says. “It’s really easy for me to use on her clitoris in this position.”

SIDE BY SIDE: Now and Zen

Your man doesn’t have to be a two-minute Tim to make you want to extend your body-bonding bliss. When on the brink of the Big O, going side-to-side, face-to-face is a surefire pleasure-prolonging pose. “My boyfriend and I use this between our other super-arousing positions,” says Helen Gary, 28, a waitress in Cheyenne, Wyoming. “We bring ourselves to the edge of orgasm, come down a little in the side-to-side, then slowly build ourselves back up to an even more incredible climax.”

Consider it a horny holding pattern. “There’s not a whole lot of motion - that’s why it delays climax,” says author Paget. But it’s perfect for erotic embraces and intimate eye contact. “A couple can feel very close when they’re facing each other in this position,” agrees Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex (DK Publishing, 1997). It’s this kind of incredible emotional ecstasy that makes you laugh, cry, and come all at the same time.

To up the intensity, get into a gentle pelvic rhythm (so he doesn’t go soft on you) and look into each other’s eyes while taking natural, deep breaths.

COSMO INTRODUCES: The Amazing Butterfly

When you’re in the mood for quality, because-you’re-worth-it climaxing, bust out our brand-new Butterfly - named for unequaled ecstasy without high-energy commitment.

The key to taking wing with our revolutionary position is lining up correctly with your man: Find a place - maybe your bed (if it’s a high one) or a desk, counter, or even the hood of a car - where your pelvis is about one foot lower than his. Lie back while your guy stands in front of you. (Tip: He might be able to kneel if your bed is superlow.) Then lift your legs and rest your feet on his shoulders. Now, throw in the Cosmo Superlift: Tilt your pelvis upward so that your back forms a straight line angling up toward him and your crotches meet. Put his hands just under your hips so he can hold your booty at the perfect angle while he thrusts (and you don’t have to worry about flexing your abs to keep things inline). Why does this feel so great? “The pelvic tilt gives his penis better access to your G-spot and builds in more friction for both of you,” says Joan Elizabeth Lloyd, author of Now and Forever - Let’s Make Love (Warner Books, 1997).

The rest is herstory: “I had an outstanding out-of-this-world orgasm,” says a fun, fearless Cosmo staffer who bravely tried out the Butterfly. “We used lots of lube and went nice and slow. He hit my G-spot while I gave myself an incredible clitoral rubdown.” She adds that her boyfriend liked it not only because of the deep penile penetration but also because it made him feel mega-macho. “He literally had me screaming with ecstasy, which makes every man feel like a stud,” she says.

Hooper is another Butterfly fan. “This position can be intensely romantic,” she explains. “When done very slowly, it’s completely dreamlike.” The result? An orgasm that takes fantasy-worthy flight.

Of course you want a steamier sex life — but there is more to it then candlelight and lingerie. There are actual tried-and-true methods for getting better stimulated and having the Big O. So, get ready for hotter sex with suggestions that will surprise and thrill your partner, from Deborah Sundahl, author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. Feel free to print this out and bring it to bed with you. We doubt your partner will complain!

Modified Missionary

You’ve probably tried the standard missionary position before. But many women complain that they cannot achieve an orgasm with the man lying on top. This modified version should take things up a notch:

Lie on your back and put your legs over your partner’s shoulders. This is a good position if you need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, and it is a nice way to begin to experience building a G-spot orgasm. He’ll have a lot of control over stimulating your G-spot, and you can play with your clitoris to have an orgasm.
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Mouth and Finger, Yum!

Many women have an easier time achieving an orgasm through oral sex than with intercourse. And since we can only assume that your partner would love nothing more than to try new ways to please you — walk him through the following exercise:

Ask your partner not to use the tongue as a vibrator on your clit, but to caress your clitoris, urethra and vaginal opening with lips and tongue. Slower is better, so you have time to absorb all the sensations and to remember to relax.

When you feel aroused, ask him to insert a finger, ever so slowly, and rub your G-spot very slowly but firmly. Over time, your G-spot will become more easily aroused, and swollen, and less stimulation will be necessary to feel ready for orgasm.

The point of this exercise is to relax and allow the sensitivity and pleasure to grow and evolve by shifting your focus bit by bit from clitoris to G-spot, over many lovemaking sessions.